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In writing a column about the aftermath of the Haitian earthquake, it was not my intent to suggest that I don’t care about the fate of Haiti, or that I am not sympathetic to the people who make up the huge numbers and heartbreaking images we see flashed across our television and computer screens.

Instead, my goal was to question the psychology of donating, the way we react to natural disasters and the nature of responsibility leading up to and immediately after those disasters.  Regardless of the outcry that followed, I think I did those things.

When I wrote about the responsibility borne by the Haitian people for their circumstances prior to the earthquake, I did not make clear that I understand that outside influences have played a large part in determining those circumstances.  However, I maintain that much of the responsibility (not all) for one’s fate – or for the fate of a group of people – lies with that person or with those people.  I understand that dire circumstances can make taking the yoke of that responsibility very, very difficult.  But to assume that the Haitians’ fate was not at least in part their own responsibility is to insult that group of people even more.  It rationalizes much of the United States’ past meddling in the affairs of Haiti.  But most of all, it shows even less respect to the Haitian people.

I’m disappointed that some outlets chose to extract segments of my column, framing my opinions in their own.  Many readers were going to disagree with my opinions regardless of the context in which they were presented – that was, in some ways, the point of writing them.  But when they were enticed into reading the piece by potentially inflammatory bits that were taken out of context, readers had little chance to look at my views with the proverbial clean slate.

While I will not apologize for writing my column, I do accept the repercussions associated with writing it and hope that some good may come out of those repercussions: that people will stop and think about their own motivations for giving and that someone else might be inspired to come up with a better way to prepare for, respond to, and recover from disasters like the one in Haiti.

Thanks for reading.

Paul

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  1. Thomas
    No matter what ANYONE says, Mr. Shirley has a VERY valid point. I am going to be abbreviated with my comments, as there are ways for hacks to get e-mail addresses. Has haiti ever even HEARD of Birth Control ? What about reinforcement steel ? I live in one of the poorest states in the union, and I am also NOT sending ONE DAMN DIME to those people !!! There are people HERE that are STARVING and HOMELESS !! In the south, we have yet another term for "Haitians" that we use, in PLAIN english, but nobody wants to hear it anymore !! I hear that there is now a MAJOR shortage of cab drivers in New York, Chicago, L.A. & Vegas...Jobs that AMERICANS should have !!!
  2. Dean
    You have no concept of unconditional love for anyone but yourself. If you choose not to give, that's one thing, but to tell people that when they give it's creating more problems is plain ignorant. The choice to help someone is just that, a choice. If you have a problem with giving to someone because you need to know exactly what it's doing or what the person is going to do with it, I suggest you never ever give anything to anyone, including information, gifts, suggestions etc . . . You are so caught up in "what am I getting out of it" you forget the meaning of giving. You will never understand what it's like to be in a situation such as the Haitians or any other person in a country that's not the US. It is our duty to help those who are less fortunate than us, especially in time of need. If everyone thought like you, there would be no aid for anyone, including you, if you ever needed.
  3. John Lism
    BTW, going to Haiti for a while might not be a bad idea, seriously. It might be the only way to actually turn this into something reasonably good for yourself, Paul, even in strictly a capitalist sense. People might actually be interested in your posts from there.
  4. kevlarman
    Re-read FUCKYOUPAULSHIRLEY. Shrieking at Paul for his percieved hatred. Is it just me, or this moron just bubbling over with hatred? I see the irony here, but does he? Paul stated the truth. Haiti has been led by dictators and corrupt thieves for decades. The slaves rose up against the French, but have endured the corruption in silence for years. Where is all the aid money gone? Check out Papa and Baby and Airstide. I hope ESPN is sending Paul's salary to a high official in Haiti.
  5. Mike
    Paul is the MAN! I will be setting up a fund that will pay Paul to write the truth. That is something people should donate to.
  6. Chuck Bass
    Waaaaaahhh! Keeping crying and moaning you liberal fucking pussies. Good article Paul.
  7. DKW
    The United States Constitution guarantees everyone the right of Free Speech. It does not mean what everyone says is RIGHT. Paul Shirley was a mediocre basketball player with limited CBA talents. We hope he will be a better person
  8. Brian
    Paul, you're in a deep, deep, deep hole. Stop digging, you scumbag.
  9. carlos
    Paul: You are just a "magot", I am wondering if you are also involved with KKK, Pat Robertson, Scientology or other "superiority complex association" You suck! Just remember that what goes around comes around too. So let's see how things will be for you in a near future....asshole!
  10. joe blow
    hey i just shit my pants.
  11. joe blow
    DOESNT ANYONE GIVE A SHIT THAT I SHIT MY SHITTERS!??!?!?!??!! HEY pAUL do you give a shit that an enormous flood of chunky brown liquid exits me in a steaming glop, splashing my already-filthy ass liberally. The stench burns my eyes
  12. tom moore
    paul, centuries of colonialism have more to do with haiti's plight than anything. when your natural resources are stolen (98% of haiti is deforested by outside countires and companies over the years) and continue to be stolen (sugar cane fields in haiti - and other agriculture - is owned by outsiders - outsiders who pay off the government and/or overthrow it with help from the u.s government). if you were born to a poor family in haiti, paul, you'd probably be a poor person in haiti right now - about zero options out there for most haitians. and it really isn't their fault.
  13. PSD Doc
    Another good article Paul. The best thing Haiti could do right now? Do the world a favor, and make a huge batch of "Jim Jones famous kool-aide", and everybody take a big gulp.
  14. Tom
    Panic has set in now because Paul Shirley suddenly realizes his faux intellectual ego trip has landed him on the fridge with all the charming souls who are out here so vigorously defending him. That’s not a place a guy who likes to be seen and heard and has spent years clawing his way as close to celebrity as he could possibly manage, wants to be. Here’s the deal, Paul. It’s kind of obvious, but bears restating: just because you once traded emails with Bill Simmons on the new Interpol album don’t make you intellectually qualified to analyze the socio-economic development of a troubled state. This is particularly true when your Big Thoughts were likely hatched at late night poker games with your friends. We all know your type, the socially liberal, aka, anything goes at the club, fiscally conservative, aka, I come from a rich family so I feel entitled to what’s been handed to me; I think they call themselves libertarians. But beyond all that silliness, where you really went wrong was in letting your extreme narcissism get the better of you. In the face or unimaginable suffering, the normally adjusted human doesn’t think: I bet everyone is wondering what I think about handouts to those people who look superficially like the homeless people I have so much contempt for. Time for Paul Shirley to educate everyone on why they’re such suckers to help! Even now, your defensive “reaction” doesn’t show a 1/100th of the contrition it should, or what’s necessary to help salvage your destroyed reputation. So sad to see your overblown ego and sociopathic disregard for others sink you like this.
  15. Lance M
    Paul, What I respect about your article is that you had the courage to present your opinion knowing full well it would go against the grain in such a manner that it would result in you being heavily criticized. What I do not respect about your article is the fact that a lot of your message comes across in an inflammatory and insensitive way. Anyone who shares your opinion cannot look past the fact that millions of innocent children, who cannot prevent or prepare for these disasters, were killed; permanently injured; orphaned; kidnapped and or left for dead. Are you speaking for the Haitian children, too? Or do you simply rationalize their deaths as collateral damage caused by US interference, as well as by the lack of proper organization and preparedness of the Haitian government bodies? The only point I can agree with you on is that people need to donate to the Haitian cause with their minds as much as their hearts. Giving is a GREAT thing - it’s the ultimate reward in life that is too often forgotten. You make a living by what you get, but you make a life by what you give. With that said, and to your point, each person who is donating should indeed perform their own due diligence to insure whether or not the recipient company is worthy us such donations. Also, any world body or foreign government that does get involved with rebuilding Haiti must learn from the past mistakes and seek world renowned experts on the best resolutions. None if this works without donations. As Teddy Roosevelt once said: “The test of our progress is not whether we add more to the abundance of those who have much; it is whether we provide enough for those who have too little.”
  16. TWatson
    I don't necessarily agree with everything you said but I don't have any issues with what you said. Teach a man to fish...that was the point I took from your article. Keep it up.
  17. Jeff
    Good luck in the European League, because you will never play pro basketball in the US again. Nice job fucking up your career. I, for one, hope you stay there.
  18. john
    No, keep digging. It's way too late anyway, and people might as well know where you stand. Besides, you seem to wear the hat pretty well. Just keep harping on "responsibility" and "donation pychology" while in just a short moment millions of peoples' lives were ripped apart, and over 100,000 lives were just lost. Why not a part II? You've probably got more to add. You could make this same point by applying it in more detail to other natural disasters. But congratulations on achieving your goal. Paul Shirley's particular personal goal was certainly something not to lose sight of in the midst of everything that has been going on in and for Haiti.
  19. Dominic
    The previous posts (Tom and Lance) are the most intelligible pieces of writing ever published on Flip Collective. Paul, stick to trite musings on pop music - a subject much more suited to your intellectual depth and freshman composition styling.
  20. TNic
    Paul, you're still Christ, don't worry about it. There are people, like me, who agree with you 100%. Look, I feel bad, but I'm not donating. Who knows where the money even goes. For all I know, George Clooney took a million of it and spent it on hookers and coke.
  21. Deb Rasmussen
    I thought it was a great article. I agreed with every word. You were the brave one.
  22. TNic
    Paul, you're still Christ and you know it. I'm with you, I'm not donating an effing dime. Who knows whether George Clooney is buying coke with that $58 mil or whether it went to a good cause. And while some say they don't respect how insensitive what you said was...I loved it. Say what you want to say, it's the internet. If someone gets pissed it's because they think they're the person who knows best. Be a prick, who cares. At least you're not being someone you're not...like this guy: http://www.huffingtonpost.com/ben-cohen/dear-espn-please-fire-pau_b_438856.html I enjoyed that greatly, because the guy apparently knows everything about everything and he's the greatest prick of the situation just because he thinks his opinion is 100% right. I enjoy that your opinion is yours and that's f*cking it. He apparently runs - TheDailyBanter.com - and lists him as practicing MMA when he's not writing. Don't want to cross guys like that - you disagree and it's a choke hold for you! I'm tough, I box. Gimme a break - most of the people who attacked you are like this guy - internet tough guys.
  23. Casey
    Folks, if you want to read about an athlete who actually knows how to show compassion, check out this piece written by Amy K. Nelson on Chad Ochocinco and the Kernich family. I'm going to write to ESPN and thank them for distancing themselves from Shirley, and encourage them to give more space to writers like Amy K. Nelson: http://sports.espn.go.com/nfl/news/story?id=4868696
  24. Doug Thompson
    I did the opposite - gave some money, but didn't buy into the emotion of it all. I think it makes it irrational, which is the part of the letter that I completely agree with - aid is often distributed shortsightedly, according to immediate need, with no strategy for preventing the perpetuation of it.
  25. GFlem
    Mr. Stanley, All the credit in the world to you for weathering the storm of criticism coming your way and not offering a paltry, rehearsed apology, rescinding genuine opinions for the sake of appeasing the vocal majority. Bravo. To tell you the honest truth, your column highlights a greater truth about the world today that many in our own country don't want to hear - personal responsibility, the catalyst to success in this country for so many decades, is on the way out. For many - including, apparently, a few of the more immature commentators here - it seems an easier path to go with public opinion and throw other peoples' (taxation) money at a problem romanticized by television commercials. Just as in Katrina, not many people want to be confronted with an ugly and inconvenient truism - if you're living below the waterline, don't wait for someone to build you a bigger dam. Find higher ground instead. Scant years after the United States distributed over $100,000 US dollars for every man, woman and child in that country, we're still hearing talk of how desperately poor the people of Haiti are? Please. The solution is obviously not another shipment of United States guilt money. As Mr. Stanley has observed, the vacuum of leadership in Haiti needs to be the first problem addressed after triage is complete.
  26. Real Guy
    LOL.. all of you redneck fagots... in 30 years you will be the minority... I will force my brethren to impose the same low life morales and actions as you do now... Paul you were NBA trash... you are now NON NBA trash...
  27. Shawna
    Paul Shirley, I would tell you to "JUST DIE ALREADY!". From your comments, one would assume that you were dead a long time ago.
  28. Jesse R
    You're right Paul, it's their fault so let's teach them a good lesson. Let the children starve and die horrible slow deaths from infection or be slowly crushed by concrete! That'll teach 'em! Stupid sissy orphans! You're a scumbag!
  29. Jared
    you're still a badass, paul. keep up the entertaining writing. dont let the negative comments deter you.
  30. Anonymous
    your in bad moral shape, moron.
  31. Tom
    You're right, GFlem. The next time children are buried alive in rubble, we should probably withhold aid until they explain why they live in an area of seismic risk. It would be a pity if one were dug out without a proper excuse. Perhaps, as Paul suggests, they should have been wearing condoms. All us silly fools throwing (taxable) money at horrific emergency before you and Paul have had a chance to crunch the numbers and bloviate - where's the personal responsibility? At least we know if a fire ever breaks out in your house, you won't be calling for help because wood is flammable and you shouldn't have been inside an edifice made of it in the first place. PS: You should send Paul your number. I hear Simmons isn't returning his calls. He could use a friend.
  32. incensed
    Here's an advice Mr. know it all, fact remains you opened your mouth without thinking. Your knowledge about Haiti was probably based on a few biased articles you read here and there. The story of Haiti as well as most developing countries is inextricably linked with the developed world. Unfortunately people like you whose egos are pumped up because people tend to look up to them (and I don't mean that because you are so knowledgeable but by the mere fact that you are 6'10 and we do tend to glorify athletes) think they have the solution to the problems facing everyone. What in the world would you know about your livelihood being eroded by subsidized imported rice? or the fact that your unelected officials only have ears for those who can grease their pockets? or your economy being burdened with payments for unscrupulous loans? or being a victim of Structural Adjustment Programs? Do you even believe for a moment that these people chose to live in the squalor conditions? While you are at it, I would have loved to read your response to hurricane Katrina, the Darfur issue, slavery or even 9/11. A word of advise it is always best to keep your mouth shut if you don't have anything useful to say lest people see your emptiness. Also learn from history in that man has the ability to vilify others and justify their oppression and extermination, don't you know the terrorists of today, and the Nazis and slave traders of the past also managed to make convincing arguments to selected groups of people in whose eyes their inhumane actions were justified?
  33. J-Dog
    It is going to be SO awkward for you when you're playing in the Haitian Basketball League...
  34. Real Guy
    Pure TRASH...
  35. Darren
    Dude, you really suck at basketball
  36. Fazerski
    "I understand that dire circumstances can make taking the yoke of that responsibility very, very difficult." When have you ever, in your own life, ever "taken the yoke of responsibility" in any way that was ever "very, very difficult"? "But to assume that the Haitians’ fate was not at least in part their own responsibility is to insult that group of people even more . . . it shows even less respect to the Haitian people." Who gets to decide what is insulting and disrespectful to the Haitian people - Paul Shirley or, well, the Haitian people? I love how you are now the official arbiter of what Haitians should and shouldn't be insulted by. A few things Haitian people should be insulted by: People donating money so their friends and family that were lucky enough to survive the initial earthquake, basic needs like clean water, the most rudimentary medical supplies, etc. A few things Haitian people should not be insulted by: Someone, in the same breathe as urging people not to donate money to provide you with the paltry things listed above, asking that you "not resort to the creation of flimsy shanty- and shack-towns[.] And could some of you maybe use a condom once in a while? . . . I would like to help, but only if I feel that my assistance is deserved and justified." They are asking you this, of course, while you are alternating between frantically searching through the wreckage of your civilization for any members of your family might be alive and lamenting the ones that you are sure are dead. Thanks, Paul. They really needed that. It's great the Haitian people have you around to protect their dignity and clarify for them what they should and shouldn't be insulted by. Seriously, I'm hearing rumors that the Haitian government is considering you for a National Medal of Honor for your both your brave efforts to diminsh the amount of food and medical supplies available to Haiti, as well as your guardianship of Haitian respect. Let me be the first to congratulate you.
  37. Real Guy
    Better be glad you was not still in the NBA.. you would be smacked and still on the bench...clown. Your views as a person with a nip of power are TRASH like your NBA game..TRASH.
  38. Curious
    Paul, I had never heard of you before your highly publicized op-ed/public display of ignorance, even hough I follow basketball fairly closely. It seems as though if you were half as good at playing basketball as you are at making a fool of yourself your NBA career might have been a success. I do have a question; how many friends and family members have you been shunned by since your literary masterpiece hit the web?
  39. Bob
    Boooo! You should have stuck to your guns Paul! Very disappointing. Eveyone agrees with you deep down inside. They just like to put on a compassionate face for the public. Natural disasters wiped out people all the time back in the day. Shit happens. Make it a farm for the DR and be done with it.
  40. Jaime
    Lesson learned. Move on. Everyone. Please.
  41. Mark
    Paul, you're completely correct here. Of course you're now facing the pillory at the hands of the liberals, for whom compassion is the only virtue. I, too, have contributed nothing -- nothing, that is, beyond the taxes that were extracted from me, some portion of which are even now being dissipated in Haiti. As far as I am concerned, by paying my taxes I fully discharge any "obligation" that I might have to help the inhabitants of Haiti. I am no more responsible for the plight of the Haitians than are the Haitians themselves. A damn sight less responsible for it, in fact.
  42. Bobzilla
    > Tom > Posted January 29, 2010 at 12:05 PM > Panic has set in now because Paul Shirley suddenly realizes his faux > intellectual ego trip has landed him on the fridge with all the > charming souls who are out here so vigorously defending him. > Tom, you loose. You know why? Because Paul stands by his comments (and well thought out comments at that, Paul). Your pseudo-intellectual post trying to get him to be contrite is not going to cut it. Paul apparently has a pair which is more than most people (including you) have these days. Paul is standing by his comments. Got it, yet? No apology is comming to a bunch of to whinning liberals like yourself.
  43. Ryan
    Awesome!!! Don't you just love the truth.
  44. ThankGodYouSaidThis
    I would like everyone who has and who will post negative comments on this article, to take inventory of their life. If you feel that you are obligated to help the people of Haiti recover from this disaster, please do so but do not condemn others who question the giving. If you feel Haiti deserves our help, do you believe in global warming? If yes, do you have a home larger than 900 square feet? Do you drive a longer commute to live in a better school district? Do you drive a larger car than you need? Do you have a vacation home? If you answered yes to the first question and any subsequent question, then you are guilty of contributing to the devastation of Haiti. How? The more resources that are required to maintain your lifestyle, the more carbon monoxide released in the atmosphere. More CO equals higher water temperatures. Warmer water equals more tropical storms/hurricanes which decimates the economies of island nations such as Haiti. Don’t worry. That $10 donation, via text, to the Red Cross will make up for your polluting ways.
  45. Jane
    Nice try Mr. Shirley. Too bad it's too little too late. You are best served sticking to your mediocre-at-best basketball career. You should be proud of yourself. No one knew of you before you decided to let the world know that you suffer from a terminal case of foot-in-the-mouth disease. The Haitian people do not need your superior,patronizing consideration. Furthermore, you obviously lack the intellect to put forward any intelligent non-racist ideas on the matter. However, never fear. You have earned the respect of those who have come on here, urging you to drop plane loads of condoms instead of water, food and tents on the "crap-hole" that is Haiti and those who refer to anyone who doesn't agree with their ignorant ideas as "liberal pussies". If that doesn't tell you something or conjure up the idea of sniveling cowards tying nooses and huddling under white sheets, then nothing else will. I'm sure that Mr. Limbaugh is jacking off to your columns as you type them. So, at the end of the day you have proven one thing. You are the proverbial Devil with his equally evil and ultimately useless supporter friends. Get a life, go back to basketball and step away from the computer. You're only digging a deeper hole. That much is clear. Jackass!
  46. Danny
    Paul, You really try to do too much with words. Behind words, you've got to understand what you're writing. The socioeconomic picture behind what you're trying to say is so much deeper than you understand. Clearly. I respect the point you're trying to make: a (very, very) glorified teach-a-man-to-fish argument. But you're essentially damning the apparent choice of a third-world country to be third-world, as though this it a conscious, lazy decision to settle for a miserable existence. The resources and industrial history simply aren't there to educate and build like we can. Stick to your argument that we shouldn't give money to homeless strangers. That is as far as your words can go, maybe. Haiti's situation is bigger than anything you can write, especially without knowing what you're writing.
  47. Tom
    Bobzilla, Congratulations on being the resident expert on Paul's pair. Between the man-crush subtext, I can see you're so impressed that he's putting it all out on the line, standing up to those whiners with their hands out in Haiti. That takes a real tough guy to that. The thing you're apparently not equipped to understand is that no one here is giving your hero a hard time for not donating. That's everyone's personal decision and most keep it private. It's the fact he decided to gloat about it while simultaneously blaming the victims of a natural disaster that's pissed reasonable people off. A modicum of respect is in order while people are still suffering. something like that. And now he's trying to spin it into some bullshit op-ed on fiscal responsibility because the heat came down on him. Weak. Regardless of his intent, he essentially broadcast to the world that he's a douche and now he's going to be treated like one.
  48. Dave
    Paul you were right on the money with what you said !! I agree 100%
  49. Miles Teg
    Paul, I support your opinions. Those damn Haitians had it coming. I would like to offer you a job writing for me. Signed, Rush Limbaugh
  50. NBA1
    Sherley who are you to critize the people in Haiti? You should be ashamed of yourself. It`s hard to conceive how ignorant you are. By the way, can you stop natural disaster? Poor you, you don`t even know what will occur tomorrow or see what`s happening 100 miles away. In the past, Haiti produced 65% of the world`s sugar and provided France with much of its financial resources, as the plantation system is lucrative, therefore France did not want to lose such a valuable colony. At the seige of Savannah Haitans fearlessly shed their blood for the independance of United States, they fought alongside colonial troops against the British on oct. 1779. Inform yourself before you make yourself look ugly and stupid.

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