There is a disparity in the dating world when it comes to the end of relationships. As a female, I feel like I’m always aware of why I was broken up with (or would be if I were to ever get dumped). This is because as a female, I know that I have some crazy moments. But males usually seem completely unaware of the reasoning behind getting broken up with, or, more likely, they refuse to acknowledge their shortcomings. For that reason, I’ve decided to share a few deal-breakers I have encountered during my dating experience in the hope it might help a clueless male figure out where he went wrong.
The biggest deal-breaker I have encountered is a video game obsession. I’m not anti-video game at all. In fact, I will waste hours playing Halo or Final Fantasy; however, I would never play a video game over having sex. If you don’t realize that saying, “we should go cuddle naked” is the most thinly veiled invite to have sex ever, you are way too in to your video game. Sure, dressing up as a sexy Spartan soldier might be fun every once in a while, but if that is the only way for me to get you away from your gaming machine, you deserve to be alone.
Another deal-breaker is toe-thumbs. If you have toe-thumbs, hide them. Hide them for a long time. You should probably hide them until you’re engaged if you really like the girl. I know it’s shallow, but as soon as I see toe-thumbs, I imagine having children with toe-thumbs, and I would prefer to end up having lovable children someday that don’t have to live under a bridge. If everything was going perfectly and out of nowhere you get broken up with, check your digits. If you have toe-thumbs, you probably let her see them too soon.
Are you a super nice guy, but keep getting dumped? Here is a secret for you. Yes, you are nice, but you’re also boring. I would rather be single than date someone who makes me feel like it’s my responsibility to carry the conversation and come up with things for us to do. No one will ever tell you that you are boring because you’re too nice. If you get some kind of generic, “it’s not you, it’s me,” this is probably your problem. Being boring isn’t a dating death sentence though. Yes, you were boring to one or two girls, but there are other girls out there that are in to boring guys (boring ones).
The final, and in my opinion, most important deal breaker is that you aren’t anything like the first impression you portray to people. Once or twice I’ve started dating what I thought was an intelligent, attractive gentleman, only to find out that he is actually a firm believer in every type of conspiracy theory and says things like, “9-11 was an inside job!” every five seconds during sex. If you are one step away from wearing an aluminum foil hat because you believe the government will listen to your thoughts without one, you should probably find a girl who is similar to you. Not disclosing the fact that you’ll believe anything you see in a documentary is like lying, and girls hate liars.
Don’t try to be someone that you aren’t (unless you have toe-thumbs), and you’re more likely to find someone that won’t dump you.
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